Gay Sexual Health. Erectile dysfunction can be a gay problem too.

Gay Sexual Health

There is only one aspect of gay sexual health I can talk about. Sexual performance anxiety is the area I specialise in. I have been working in erectile dysfunction therapy for over a decade. In those years, I have helped a small number of gay clients. Erection difficulties are not only a straight person’s problem.

I remember it well when Jay called me. He explained his situation and I listened. He said he is gay, and asked me if this was a problem. I stayed silent for a few moments because I did not know what to say to him. That was many years ago.

Back then I was ignorant, it has been many decades since I explored that side of the playground. Until that moment I had not considered gay men could also need an ED Therapist

This is what interests me.

The choice of which consenting adult turns you on, does not bother me. I am in interested in, and skilled in working with, is the stuff going on in your head. The stuff getting in the way. I am only interested in your thoughts and feelings, your internal dialogue. The same thing goes for straights, bi’s and gay men. Your source of sexual arousal is of less interest to me. It is how your mind behaves at the crucial moment that counts.

Do you have a sex secret? Are your sexual preferences at odds with the social expectations placed upon you?  Many times I am being asked to ‘cure a person of being gay.’ This is not possible, that is not an aspect of gay sexual health I can help with, nor can anyone. What turns you on, is what turns you on.

For example. Ben emailed me because he is having troubles keeping an erection. We spoke on the phone and he is in a loving, caring relationship with a girl, they have a great emotional connection. She wants sex, lots more sex and Ben is finding it very difficult to perform. He is scared of trying, and very anxious about it all. He is desperate to avoid another erection failure with the embarrassment that goes with it.

Ben’s girlfriend doesn’t know about his time in various fetish sex clubs where he always takes a submissive role to both men and women. Ben has tried to introduce some of this type of play in to their relationship, but she is not into it. Whilst Ben has some desire for her, the appeal of the fetish takes over. I cannot cure Ben of his desire for a submissive role, that is what he is.

If this is familiar to you, read this web page, and understand why I can’t cure you of being gay.  It Gay is your preference and if it troubles you, contact Stonewall.org.

Gay sexual health

Have you found this page because you are worried and anxious about feelings of being gay, then this is the website you need. http://www.stonewall.org.uk

or for young adult http://www.youngstonewall.org.uk